Being A Friend To Yourself

Greetings and Blessings!!

I hope you all are doing well and I hope you all had great and blessed weekend!! It is the beginning of a new week! We are almost done with the month of September and it will soon be October! This year is going by so quickly and the New Year will be here before we know it! Let's continue to make the most out of the remaining months of the year! I wanted to share with you all how important it is to be a friend to yourself. As much as it is important to be there and be supportive of others. It is just as important to be there and be supportive of yourself. So I ask, How many of you are a friend to yourself? When it come to the characteristics of being a good friend it includes, Being kind to others. Showing up and be supportive. Being there unconditionally and without judgment when your friends are having a hard time. Telling them the truth, even when it’s hard. Celebrating your friends. Inspiring them to go for their dreams. Respecting them, honoring them, appreciating them, and being compassionate. 

It is so easy for us to show up and be there for other people when it is needed. But why is it hard for us to take that same love and friendship that we give to others and apply it to ourselves? Why is it that we suddenly feel guilty for taking care of ourselves or selfish for choosing to put ourselves first? Why does it seem wrong for us to love ourselves in the forms that we need most such as compassion, appreciation, nurturing, pleasure, etc? In situations where you have no problem telling a friend to take a break, stop working, leave a relationship, or go for their dreams, you just cannot seem to give yourself permission to do what you really need.

If you are not a friend to yourself, I encourage you to become one starting right now! There’s nothing selfish about taking care of yourself. If you don't look out for you then who will. When you become a friend to yourself, the more you fill yourself up with love and the more you will be able to give to others. It is okay to be selfish sometimes you have to be. Take the time to check in with yourself and be there for you when needed. You can't go around be there for others while letting go of you in the process. If you can genuinely be there for others then you can genuinely be there for yourself!  

Be Blessed

Christina